Healing Wounds - Does Time Heal Wounds?
The saying goes: “Time heals all wounds.” Does it?
I say that it does not!
Time only heals a properly treated wound
Too many people bury emotional hurts inside and don’t deal with them.
This is a ticking time bomb and will show up in the future in harmful ways.
Just like an untreated wound will cause an infection, an untreated emotional wound will too!
I experienced a relationship with someone that was afraid of conflict.
Therefore, if I did something that she didn’t like:
She would hold it in instead of asking me why I did or said whatever it was.
Then she would would ruminate (let if fester) and become infected.
She would assign fear based emotions as to why I did it
(They were never true)
She would determine, I had the worst of intentions.
It would grow and grow.
Side note: Rumination is the Top cause of Anxiety and Depression
We all need to deal with things. Within ourselves first.
So after time would pass and the instance or instances became a festering infection,
her mood changed and being an Empath I could feel it.
I could start to sense it and then she would say something passive aggressive or snarky.
I would call it out and want to deal with it.
This would then turn into a power struggle and sometimes a multi day battle with me wanting to focus on the most recent thing, which in my mind was a minor nothing.
And with her not telling me what was bothering her and wanting to win a fight that she can’t win because there was no immediate reason to be acting in a negative way.
But she was hiding her infected wound in the background.
She would bring up examples of things from months ago, that were completely unrelated.
This was a nightmare!
She would get herself into this state because quote: “She was afraid of conflict”
But it ultimately caused the greatest conflicts of my life
No matter how many times I invited her to deal with things on the spot she wouldn’t do it.
We are obviously no longer together, but I gained a great deal of insight and empathy for this situation.
I am hopeful that by sharing all of this it might help someone that may have needed this message.
Face your personal demons.
Don’t be afraid of being alone with your thoughts.
Always look inward first.
You can only control you
God is within us and you need time with your thoughts.
The more you can get into a positive mindset of gratitude,
the happier you will be
and you will be able to make strong decisions from a loving place instead of a fearful place
I highly recommend watching this 7 minute video “Why Boredom is Good For You”
And then the beautiful song below it “Truth be Told”