From
Frosty the Snowman
The Magician
Busy Busy Busy: Is there a cost of being busy?
There absolutely is a cost, which can include:
1) Missing out (what’s truly important)
2) Stress (Self induced harm)
3) Regrets (Personal experience)
1) Missing out (what's truly important?)
So many of us get consumed with the distractions of life
that we don’t end up having time to fit everything in that we want to.
“I don’t have time to do that important thing, so I’ll just look at Social Media”
“That important thing is hard, I don’t feel like it now, let me check my phone”
Another kind of too busy for family and what is important can be EGO driven:
“I’m too important to miss work right now”
“I have to go to work, there’s an important deadline”
“They won’t be able to do it right if I’m not there”
While these things may be valid or important at times,
we shouldn’t prioritize them over what is truly important!
Which is Love, Joy, Family and Faith
You may have heard the “Big Rocks” analogy
I encourage you to watch this video and think about your own life
2) Stress (Self induced harm)
The other thing that business can cause is Stress.
Stress is self induced and it is important to know this in order to avoid it.
Take time to breath and put things in proper perspective (see the potential health issues below)
Stress Influenced Conditions
Cancer
Chronic Pain
Diabetes
Fatigue
Inflammatory diseases
Hair loss
Heart disease
Hyperthyroidism
Obesity
Sexual dysfunction
Skin problems
Sleep disorders
Tooth and gum disease
Ulcers
3) Regrets (Personal experience)
Being too busy for what matters most to you can lead to Regrets
Here is an example of a minor regret that I have:
When I was young, I had a hard time sleeping.
My Mom would sometimes rub my head in small circles:
around my jaw line, my hair line and over my eyebrows.
It was so relaxing and nice, and it helped me sleep.
I still remember it.
Fast forward to my youngest Son who had a lot of allergy issues
A.D.D. like me and he had a difficult time sleeping.
So I would tuck him in at night and rubbed his head the same way my Mom did for me when I was young.
One night, I was worn out. (My Mom had recently passed, I just bought a massive house on a single income that needed so much work. It was a bank foreclosure that the bank allowed to flood. So I had mold issues along with a busy body HOA, plus dealing with my Mom’s estate, in addition to coaching two travel hockey teams and playing hockey myself.
I was extremely busy and stressed and I didn’t know how to process my Mom’s passing
I now know this is all self induced.
One night, while I was tucking my Son into bed.
He very nicely asked me if I could rub his head
He is the kind of kid that rarely ever asked for anything.
I said: “Not tonight, I’m really tired. Maybe I can do it tomorrow night”
This night still bothers me because he never asked again.
I continued to spiral down into a depression that I didn’t even know was happening to me
it ultimately lead to a very ugly divorce and then to my Rock Bottom.
So that was the last day of his innocent child stage.
I had the chance to choose what mattered most and I chose selfishly
I have a great relationship with my Son now, but it took a lot of years and Love
And I still wish I had made a better choice!