Control is an Illusion - Love over Fear
Tyrants and Bully’s control through fear
It may work for a season, until a bigger fear comes along.
There is always a bigger fish.
There are only 2 motivations for all decisions.
Love or fear (Fear includes all derivatives of fear (Anger, hate, bitterness, revenge…)
We make bad decisions out of fear.
I’ve heard it said (Haven’t counted myself) that
The Bible tells us to “fear not” 365 times (1 for each day of the year)
Attempting to control someone else is a fearful act.
Afraid of losing control or afraid of what they might do if they don’t listen to you.
We need to give Love and guidance to those we love.
We need to Trust in them and Trust in God who Loves us all.
We can and should give counsel (advice) to those we Love “Iron Sharpens Iron” PROVERBS 27:17
It is up to them to take our guidance or not.
Some people can learn through guidance and teaching, while some others need to learn the hard way.
With your children:
Train them up right – Love them – Then Trust in them and Trust in God
With your Significant other:
Give them Love, Kindness, Respect and Joy
Trust in them and Communicate with them
If it is meant to be, they will give those things in return.
If you attempt to manipulate or control, they will eventually sense this fear based act
and it will begin to drive a wedge in your relationship
Never deceive yourself into thinking you are attempting to control someone for their best interest
Control is an illusion and it will eventually crumble.
Always choose Love over Fear
